Where do married couples go on dates?
At the end of a busy day, you sit on the couch together. And flip through Netflix. Sound familiar?
It’s easy, but not the most meaningful time together.
Date night ideas for married couples connect you and your partner. Adventure together, even if you’ve been married forever!
Gottman Institute’s research shows that just 2 hours a week devoted to dates contributes to a healthy relationship. (source)
Married Couples Date Night Things to Do: Anniversaries
First, what is there to do on an anniversary or event? Make it special!
1. Recreate Your First Date
We do this on our anniversary almost every year. It is a meaningful way to remember your first spark together.
2. Get Tickets To A Concert, Play, or Musical
Look at the schedules for the venues close to you. Then, pick something you will both enjoy.
Splurge for the good seats! It’s your anniversary after all.
3. Visit a Brewery or Vineyard
If you like beer or wine, get out and try something new. Make reservations and set up a tasting.
4. Plan Your Next Big Getaway
Go to your favorite restaurant and take the time to plan your next big trip.
- Book the flights and hotel before you leave the date.
- Make a list of all the things you would like to do and see on your trip.
Opt for a staycation or a nearby weekend away. Book a hotel and plan a few fun things to do in your area.
6. Splurge on a Fancy Dinner
Make reservations at a nice place.
Pro Tip: Tell them ahead that you are celebrating your anniversary! They may decorate, give you a private table, or throw in something complimentary.
7. Take a Weekend Road Trip
Is there a nearby place you’re curious to visit? Jump in the car, start driving, and see where you end up.
*Try these road trip trivia questions to entertain you together.
8. Check Something Off Your Bucket List
If you have a bucket list, an anniversary is the perfect time to check something off of it.
Try something adventurous, a bucket list travel destination, or a new hobby you have been wanting to explore.
9. Have Your Cake and Eat It Too
Every year on our anniversary, I try to get a small lemon cake to recreate our wedding cake.
Bring a local baker a picture of the cake. Or have them use the same flavors.
10. Make a Couples Vision Board
A couples vision board is a place to gather images and words that represent your goals and dreams.
Creating it also helps you and your partner focus on your future together, create a stronger bond, and open up honest communication.
Make the night all about remembering your love story.
- Look at pictures from when you first met, engagement photos, and wedding photos.
- Watch your wedding video
- (if you dare) put on your wedding dress and suit.
- Dance with one another like you did at your wedding.
- Enjoy a delicious meal and cake!
If you can, drive by or visit the place where you had your wedding ceremony or reception.
12. Renew Your Wedding Vows
Make it a big affair or a private one- whatever is the most meaningful to you.
13. Learn to Salsa Dance
Learning a dance can strengthen your relationship, bring you closer, and help you work better as a team.
Besides, isn’t salsa dancing a more fun idea for date night than what you usually do? Look for lessons near you!
14. Hire a Private Chef for the Night
If cooking isn’t your thing, hire a private chef for dinner at home. This is a romantic and stress-free way to spend your anniversary.
15. Enroll in a Marriage Class
Each year of marriage, reflect on aspects of your marriage that are going well, but also the things that could use work.
Consider enrolling in a marriage class to strengthen your relationship.
Date Night Questions For Married Couples
Date night questions are perfect if you want:
- cheap date night ideas for married couples
- interesting conversation topics over a meal
- virtual and long-distance date night ideas
16. Would You Rather Questions for Couples
While on a getaway with my husband, we had fun with these would you rather questions for couples.
17. How Well You Know Me Questions
Do you know your partner’s pet peeve? Their favorite hobby? Do you know why they fell in love with you?
18. Couples Challenge Questions
Who would die first in a Zombie apocalypse?
Who would handle it better if they gave up coffee?
Play this unique couples challenge quiz!
19. Conversation Starters
Spicy, romantic, fun, and random questions to start conversations reconnect you with your partner.
20. Date Night In: A Journal for Couples For Conversation & Connection
This journal is designed to start an intimate conversation. It features over 75 prompts including “favorite memories” and “first impressions of each other.”
21. Sexy Couples Trivia
This game is great for a spicy date night at home. It’s sure to heat things up in your marriage.
Hot Date Night Ideas For Married Couples
Are you looking to take things up another notch? Spice up your relationship.
22. Role Play At A Bar
For this date night idea, pretend you are strangers meeting for the first time at a bar. Come up with a new name and storyline. Don’t break character!
23. Have a Lunchtime Rendezvous’
Date night can also happen during the day. Schedule a spicy lunchtime rendezvous at home or in a hotel.
24. Try Out Edible Body Paint
Buy edible body paint or make your own with melted chocolate or whipped cream. Have fun painting one another.
25. Play an Adult Game
- Play strip poker, strip monopoly, strip…well anything.
- Make up your own naughty rules for your favorite board or card game.
- Write sexy or romantic ideas on Jenga blocks.
26. Try Something New In Bed
Put more effort into your bedtime look with sexy lingerie, throw rose petals on the bed, and light candles. Be creative with these cards.
27. Couples Massage
Book a couples massage and relax. Or take turns giving a massage to one to one another with sensual massage oil.
28. Take a Bubble Bath or Steamy Shower
Is there room for two in your bath or shower? Make room and heat things up.
29. Drive-in Movie
Channel your inner teenager and enjoy a drive-in movie with your spouse. Get cozy in the car.
30. Go Skinny Dipping
Take it off and go for a sexy swim with your spouse.
31. Stay in Bed Together
Make a date for the morning! Plan to stay in bed together all morning if you can.
Related: Creative Date Night Gifts Ideas
Date Night Ideas For Married Couples At Home
Next, here are cheap date night ideas for a married couples night at home. The key to a successful date night at home is to plan ahead. Set aside distractions to focus on one another.
32. Movie Night Menus: Dinner and Drink Recipes Inspired by the Films We Love
A great date night at home starts with a dinner, movie, and drinks with a twist!
Mix it up with this book. It spotlights thirty films from the 1930s through the ’80s paired with signature drinks and food. Spark conversation with background and facts about each movie.
33. Online Couple’s Dance Class
Explore free online dance class tutorials, clear room in your living room, and enjoy dancing without an audience.
34. Complete a Challenge
Check out these fun challenges for couples and pick something you and your spouse would enjoy. My favorites are:
- Iron Chef
- The $10 Buyers Challenge
- Surprise Date Challenge
- 30 Day Calendar of Small Love Challenges
35. Happy Hour At Home
Try out making a new cocktail or mix up a classic cocktail you both like.
36. Date Night Subscription Box
These awesome subscription box ideas have your date night at home planned for you. From mysteries, cookies, and crafts, each box offers unique connection with your partner.
37. Solve a Crime
38. Charcuterie Board
Make a fun meal with cheeses, cured meats, fruits, nuts, and other little appetizers you love.
39. Use a Dinner Theme
Have a Little Italy night and prepare your own pizzas.
Other ideas include
- fondue night
- fiesta night
- french crepes
Or find a new cuisine you want to try. Then, spend the evening figuring it out together.
40. Video Games
Recently, my husband took out his old Guitar Hero. We had a blast playing and we laughed a lot. It’s a great cheap date night idea that most husbands will love!
41. Picture Puzzle
Turn a favorite picture into a puzzle. Then, spend a night relaxing and putting your picture puzzle together.
42. Make a Bucket List
Spend a night together creating an ultimate couples bucket list. What do you want to do together before you die?
There’s no time like the present to get started.
43. DIY Home Project
Do you have furniture to refinish? Or a room you want to paint? Spend the evening enjoying a DIY home project with your partner.
44. Game Night
Break out all of those board games you own!
45. Have a Firepit
Light up your outdoor firepit, pour the wine, and roast s’mores on a nice evening.
46. Side Hustle Date
Do you and your spouse have a side hustle? Or do you want to start one?
We have found it helpful to make a date time each week to discuss ours. Make this fun and do it over dinner or dessert.
47. Make Your Own Club
Is there something both you and your spouse enjoy? Or want to learn more about? Make your own club! Book clubs, investment clubs, hobby clubs, or sports clubs – the sky is the limit here.
48. Have A Spa Night
Slip into a comfy robe. Then pamper one another with face masks while you soak your feet.
Fun Date Night Ideas For Married Couples
What do married couples do to have fun? Check out this list of unique and fun date night ideas for married couples.
49. Find Events Close To You
Check out eventbrite.com to see what is going on in your area – from music and food to performing arts and sports.
50. Be A Kid Again
Roller skating? Going down the slides at the public pool? Spend a date doing something you loved to do as kids.
51. Go To Brunch
My husband and I reminisce about the days before family activities took over. We loved brunch on the weekends. This is a great date idea!
52. Host A Murder Mystery Party
Invite other couples to join you on date night. Check out how to host the perfect murder mystery party here!
53. Attend a Charity Event
Find a cause that is important to you and get dressed up for a fun evening out.
More Fun Ideas Out & About
Choose from this list of fun entertainment and activities to enjoy!
54. Play Miniature Golf
55. Go To An Arcade
56. Attend A Sporting Event
57. Test Drive Fancy Cars
58. Go Fishing or Camping
59. Check Out A Comedy Club
60. Have Fun At A Drag Show
61. Go To An Amusement Park
62. Take a Motorcycle Ride
63. Visit a Museum
64. Sing Karaoke
65. Take an Art Class
Adventure Date Ideas
If you and your spouse want to add adventure to your date nights, check out these ideas perfect for married couples.
66. Check Out An Escape Room
67. Go Rock Wall Climbing
68. Get Tattoos Together
69. Go Skydiving
70. Plan A Hot Air Balloon Ride
71. Find a Ghost Walk Tour
72. Go Horseback Riding
73. Play Laser Tag
74. Go Axe Throwing
75. Go Bowling
76. Have Fun Ice Skating
77. Take A Hike
78. Take a Kayak or Canoe Ride
79. Go Paddle Boarding
80. Take A Bike Ride
81. Participate in Snow Sports Like Skiing, Sledding, or Snow-Shoeing
82. Go Swimming Sans Kids!
83. Hit Golf Balls At The Driving Range
84. Take an Exercise Class Together
85. Spend Time At The Beach
Romantic Date Nights For Married Couples
Looking to bring the romance back into date night? Here are great romantic date night ideas for married couples.
86. Go Out For Drinks And Dessert
88. Take a Scenic Drive
89. Have A Picnic Date In Front of the Fireplace
90. Enjoy A Candlelight Dinner And a Movie
91. Stay At a Bed and Breakfast
92. Book a Private Cooking Lesson
93. Volunteer Together
Chill Date Night Ideas For Married Couples
Looking to do something together that is low-key and relaxing? These are great classic date night activities that are easy.
94. Visit The Library or a Bookstore
95. Get Ice Cream at a New Place
96. Try a New Cuisine At A Restaurant
97. Go To The Movie Theater
98. Go Out For Coffee
99. Visit the Local Arboretum or a Flower Garden
100. Take a Walk Together
101. Visit Open Houses
102. Go To Church or Attend An Event or Class Offered
103. Attend Theatre in the Park
104. Visit a Farmer’s Market
105. Go Shopping For Something You Will Both Enjoy
Date Night Challenges & Solutions
You know that couple on Facebook who is always posting about their date nights?
I’m talking multiple date nights a month.
It looks easy. But it takes work to plan a date night. There are date night challenges when you are married, but also creative ways to get around them.
- Try morning or lunch dates to find more time in your schedule.
- Plan a date night at home if you don’t have childcare.
- Budget by setting aside a portion every month strictly for date night.
- Make a plan using the list of date night ideas below, and put a reminder on your phone if you need to make reservations.
To Consider With Date Night Ideas For Married Couples
This year, my husband and I have made a goal to plan at least one date night out per month in addition to a weekly date night at home (without distractions).
I challenge you to make date night with your spouse a priority.
Let me know what other ideas you have to add to the list!
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