Recently, I had a 15 year old student pass away from cancer. And, I CAN’T EVEN IMAGINE how difficult that must be for his parents. I spent a lot of time in his home teaching and spending time with them, and I got to know them as wonderful, kind human beings. They are just like you and me, put into an unthinkable situation when their son turned nine.
All I can think since, is how incredibly tough Mother’s Day will be for his mama. My heart breaks for her every time I think about it.
And it’s got me thinking. Why must Mother’s Day only be to lift our own mama up? And Why only on Mother’s Day?
MOTHERHOOD IS DANG HARD
Even if our kids are healthy, motherhood is an incredibly complex and difficult job at all levels.
Other women are the only ones that truly understand this.
Heck, there should be medals given out just for giving birth! And that’s just the beginning!
We then spend the rest of our lives giving EVERYTHING we’ve got for our kids and praying that it’s enough. Yet, too often we’re reminded that we can’t always be perfect for them (ugh, mom guilt). And no matter how hard we try, we can’t always fix everything either. It’s an amazing, but extremely tough gig at times.
So why can’t we use the day to make all the fantastic and exhausted moms we know feel a little special?
10 SIMPLE & INEXPENSIVE IDEAS TO LIFT A MAMA UP
1. Buy a bouquet of roses and give one out to every mama you know! Simple and beautiful
2. Send a card or text message to the mothers in your life telling them what great parents they are, and what you admire about them as mothers. Every mom I know has beautiful and unique strengths.
3. Buy a $5 gift card for coffee to give to out. Or buy her a coffee and drop it off. Mamas could always use caffeine!
4. Invite some mom friends over for a little wine and the movie “Bad Moms.” I think every mother on earth can relate to this movie! Or plan all the details and go out for a girls night!
5. Offer to watch her kids so she can do some self-care. We are best when we take care of ourselves!
6. Drop off a little treat or healthy snack for her to indulge when the kiddos are sleeping!
7. Take some pictures of her and her kids and send them to her around Mother’s Day!
8. Send her an inspirational mom quote. This site has lots of sweet ones!
9. Do a self care challenge together! My spring one is perfect to do with others. Get your nails done, read the same inspiring book to discuss, or compare notes on a new healthy recipe you both try!
10. Pay her a compliment that has nothing to do with motherhood. Often as moms, we lose ourselves in the everyday tasks required to keep our families alive! Is her hair cute? Does she look great in those jeans? Do you love the work or hobby she does well? Let her know!
This does not need to be on Mother’s Day! In fact, it’s probably more impactful before or after the day when we go back to doing the hard work of being moms again.
LIFT A MOM UP WHO DESPERATELY NEEDS IT
I’m so looking forward to the loves from my kids and giving extra to our grandmas this year. And for the first time, I’m truly aware of how difficult this holiday can be for those that have lost children, and that I should never take for granted the beautiful babies I have.
Finally, if you know anyone that has lost a child, miscarriage to fully grown, give a word of encouragement or simply lend an ear so they can talk. It’s a very dark place at any stage, and Mother’s Day can be a painful reminder to them. You’ll be making a bigger impact than you even know.
So, I encourage you to share the love in the next few weeks! All the moms I know are doing their best, and deserve a little extra!
What am I missing? What are other ways to lift a mama up this Mother’s Day? Share below!