7 Heartfelt Ways to Honor a Miscarriage
The Best Ideas to Honor Your Angel Baby
Most people that know me would be shocked to find out I have a tattoo.
I don’t talk about it, and I’m not normally that into tattoos for myself. I am intrigued by the stories they can tell. But mostly, I find the lifelong commitment is too much for me.
Except, with this.
As a way to honor a baby lost in miscarriage. Or in my case, babies.
“ Sometimes you’ll put up a good fight and lose. Sometimes you’ll hold on really hard and realize there is no choice but to let go. Acceptance is a small, quiet room.”
Cheryl Strayed
I’ve shared about my three miscarriages, and how I got through the subsequent pregnancies.
Today, I’m sharing what many that lose a baby need most. A way to honor and remember them.
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How I Honored My Miscarriages
So…back to the tattoo.
After my second loss, I was terrified that I would one day forget my unborn children. That they would be lost in the passage of time and space.
And I needed something that would be with me always. So, after a lot of thought, I put two tiny footprints on my thigh. I knew, regardless of where I was or who I would become, that when I was eighty I would still think of those babies.
It’s been nine years since my first miscarriage, and I do not in any way regret the tattoo.
However, I realize now that I will never forget them. Forgetting them would be like forgetting my own name. They are a part of me. Of my story.
But a way of honoring them was what I needed. And in a way, I still need.
So if you are in need of the same thing, here are…
7 Ideas to Honor a Miscarriage
And I promise, only one of them includes inking your body! 🙂
1. BUY JEWELRY
Perhaps the easiest way to honor and keep baby close is through a beautiful necklace. For a long time, I wore a pair of angel wings on a necklace along with the initials of my born children.
It was very similar to the necklace below.
2. GET A TATTOO
As I explained above, I needed something permanent after multiple miscarriages.
I chose baby footprints, but angel wings, a heart, or the child’s name are also great ideas.
3. NAME YOUR BABY
I chose not to name my babies because it was too hard for me. But I know other women that really needed it.
So, a great way to honor a baby lost in miscarriage is to give them a good name.
And if you didn’t know the gender? Give them a name you love that is gender-neutral or a family surname.
4. PLANT A TREE OR PLANT
Plant a tree in your yard or place a plant in your home in baby’s honor. Tie a beautiful ribbon around it if you’d like. Then, watch it grow.
In the featured image at the top, the plant in the background was given to the couple after their miscarriage.
Even years later, when you see that plant or tree, it will make you think of your baby.
5. MAKE AN ORNAMENT
Create an ornament with sonogram photos or hospital bracelets that you can put on the tree for years to come.
Pinterest has lots of amazing baby ornament ideas and this would be a sweet reminder at Christmas of your baby.
6. CREATE A SHADOW BOX
Have a special spot for that baby in your home.
Make a shadow box with memorabilia and hang it on the wall where you can see it when you walk by or enter the room.
If this is too much, simply have a small area in your home where you see something that reminds you to pause, reflect, and pray.
7. DONATE IN BABY’S NAME
And finally, this one I am going to start doing myself.
Find an organization that you believe in, or one specifically for babies. Then every year, donate some money in your baby’s name. Here are just a few that look perfect.
- March of Dimes
- Save The Children
- The North American Council on Adoptable Children
- The United Nations Children’s Fund (UNICEF)
- Newborns In Need
This website has a lot of great information about all of them.
While we can’t change our own baby’s future, we can still change the lives of countless others in their name.
Something to Consider With My Miscarriages
While the purpose of my tattoo was for my unborn children, it now serves equally as a way to remind me how unbelievably blessed I am to have three healthy children.
There were many times along the journey when I doubted that was possible.
If you’ve had a miscarriage my heart goes out to you. Please, give yourself the time to grieve. Losing a child at any time is unbearable.
And take comfort in this quote…
“I held you every second of your life.”
Stephanie Paige Cole
How do you honor your baby lost in miscarriage? How has it helped you emotionally?
If you’re looking for other great ideas, check out this article HERE on Megan Does Motherhood. I learned some new things from her!
Other personal growth posts…
- How To Survive Pregnancy After Miscarriage
- How to Motivate Yourself When It’s Hard
- 21 Ways To Simplify Your Life, Right Now
